It was early in the morning, I was about to start my work. When my two-year old came running to me with a broken toy. It was one of her favorite toy, a plastic green colored fish. She was hoping that I would fix it for her. It looked like broken forever. But my baby to a toddler, it was difficult make her understand the reality, she kept nagging me to fix the toy for her.
It is an incident that occurs in every household now and then. But it hit me hard!
An instant thought came along! Not all broken things are meant to be fixed!
Recently one of my friends gone through a very painful divorce. In moment of weakness she confessed that she was hoping that it would work but it didn’t. We all knew that was never going to work. It was broken forever. Like the toy, some relationships also never meant to be fixed. But it might take a while to understand and accept it.
The most difficult part is to have an understanding in relationship is whether ‘to work on’ or ‘to move on’. Sometimes we knew it was over but we were hoping for a miracle because we didn’t know that there could be another life without this phase, this dream or this person.
But believe me there is! And there will be always. This is how life works!
I lost many things in my life, I was almost broke more over a decade now. My dream was shattered and my hopes were gone. It was very dark phrase of life where I just gave up on life. Everything around me seemed meaningless. I wrote some saddest poems on those days. I lived on that self-pity zone for a long time. It took years to heal.
The wound has its mark in my life but it doesn’t bother me anymore. I accept it as part of me. I worked hard on getting back my life. I collected lots of self- help books and got connected with very positive people in course of time.
Healing doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time, but the important thing is I never gave up. Things started to change in very slow motion and today when I look back I thank to God for making this far.
Today, I’m in a new phase of life which was totally unbelievable fifteen years back. I found a new love, a new phase and new reason to love life. And I’m very grateful for that.
With a smile, I picked up the toy and told her that the fish is going for vacation. A new fish would come and join her. That evening she got a new toy fish! She happily started playing with it forgetting about the old one. The joy was overwhelming for the mother as well.
It would have been nice if we can replace all the things so easily like the toy. But with life it works differently. The emotional hurts take time to heal. Remember, life again will take it turn and things will be much better soon!